Cancer Was the Cure

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and in late May 2013… breast cancer hit one of our own… our Director of Administration and my best friend Jenny Miller. Please take a moment to read these words from Jenny today and share this post with the women in your lives. You don’t have to have cancer to relate to what she has to say. But at some point in your life, breast cancer will affect your life (either yourself or someone you love). Take the necessary steps now to protect yourself and the ones you love. Go get checked by scheduling a mammogram or physician’s exam and encourage those in your influence to do the same. And click here for a how-to self-exam. —Crystal

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I’ll never forget the day I was told the word cancer.

My friend and ministry partner Crystal Renaud was in town visiting for what was supposed to be a planning retreat and we were just heading to my doctor for what I thought was a blocked milk duct. I was about to stop breastfeeding my daughter and move on with the next phase of my life which was going to include heading back to school to get my counseling degree and working with Crystal to expand WHOLE Women Ministries as a whole. I was really excited about the opportunities that were coming up.

Crystal and I went to my OB/GYN who also was sure it was a blocked milk duct. I was told to put hot compresses on it and come back in two weeks for a checkup. But just before we left, he suggested we just head over to the hospital for a “quick ultrasound.” A very lengthy ultrasound led to a mammogram which led to Crystal and I being led into a very small room and I was asked the question, “Can I be honest with you?” Next the words….”we think you have breast cancer, in fact we’re almost sure of it.”

I felt the room go dark.

The weeks and months to come would be a blur. Testing, doctor visits, phrases like “it’s very aggressive,” “the tumor is large,” “chemotherapy,” “double mastectomy,” “radiation,” “removal of ovaries,” were things that were being thrown at me at rapid speeds. It was so emotionally overwhelming, but yet I didn’t even have time to process the emotion. Our family was in shock. My husband, who had been in the trucking industry since 1997, had to change jobs taking a pay cut so he could be home every evening to help me as I began this journey. My two boys (10 and 6) and my baby girl (20 months) had no idea what was happening to Mommy.

Right now, I am in the middle of chemotherapy treatment. I have one more round of chemo and then I will have a double mastectomy right before Thanksgiving. Then after the holidays I’ll be having radiation and then reconstruction surgery, and then finally either a hysterectomy or removal of my ovaries. And I’m only 34 years old. Since I carry the BRAC gene, treatment has to be aggressive and fast. And to top it all off, right after my start of chemo, my own mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and has since had a double mastectomy.

If you read all that and took a deep breath while thinking, “wow,” believe me, I still can’t believe it’s all real.

When I was asked to write a blog post for WHOLE because of breast cancer awareness month, I thought about what I could say other than just my breast cancer story. What did God want me to say?

I know that my story is still being written. Many of you know my personal story of how God has healed me from my past sexual addiction and now I use that story to help so many others who struggle. I really thought that was it. I thought I would just share that story and God would help me lead others into the path of recovery.

What I didn’t know was – my story wasn’t done, and He wasn’t done changing me.

When you stare your greatest fear (which in my case WAS cancer) in the face directly, you find out quickly about who you are inside. You quickly come to the realization how much you want to live, how much you love your family, how precious life is, how much more there is to do, how weak you really are, and how you really have no control. Because of my past, I was a very insecure person – always seeking others’ approval and acceptance. I had lost so much of my identity through my addiction, it took years of counseling/therapy/recovery groups to begin to learn who I was apart from that. I had to replace all the lies I believed about myself and my worth with the truth of God’s word and who He says I am. It’s been a long journey.

But now in the face of a cancer diagnosis, more is revealed about my heart. God had asked me to not just trust Him with my past (which included my hurts and my beliefs about myself), but now to place my very life into His hands. My future. And I thought giving my past to Him was hard! There was so much more at stake handing him my future: Would I have to completely lose everything about myself – the parts of my body that make me a woman? Would I never be able to have any more children? Would I live to see my 40th birthday? To see my baby girl walk down the aisle? To watch my boys become men? To hold my grandchildren? To sit beside my husband when we were old on the porch swing of the house we just moved into this past December?

Yes, this indeed was much harder.

I had to make a decision right after my diagnosis. I prayed and said, “God, if I do this you have to speak to me and give me something to hold onto.” I woke up the next morning and immediately words from Psalm 91 came to my mind and I had to run and look it up. I read it in the Message version and the words literally were leaping off the page at me. It was a promise. Something I could hold onto. At that moment, I made the decision. I was placing it ALL in God’s hands. No, my heart and emotions didn’t feel it yet, but I made the decision with my mind and I said it out loud. At that moment, it was like I took off a pair of glasses that I had seen the world in for 34 years and I put on a new pair. They were not rose-colored for sure, but it was a whole new way of viewing the world.

I now see opportunities every day to show love, I see through rude and manipulative people to the heart of their brokenness that makes them that way, I see the value of pausing and just looking up at the great big blue sky and realizing how small I am, I see that God can do more with me in the moments of silence and rest than He can when I moved through my day running 100mph. I see my Heavenly Father as someone who can be trusted, not like all the people who have lost my trust through my lifetime for whatever reason. When I look in the mirror the old me would see a bald, sick woman who has cancer. Now, I see a beautiful child of the King who is allowing her Father to shine through her life like a ruby – His light hitting her brokenness and illuminating the darkness around her. Everything is redefined.

You don’t have to be diagnosed with cancer to have this moment for yourself.

Whatever you’re dealing with that’s keeping you from being changed from the inside out, more than likely is keeping you that way because of fear. It’s in the process of surrender and the pain you may have to walk through is where the healing is. We get hung up in the past and all its mess, or we dream of what it would look like on the other side when it would all go away. But what about the middle? The actual process. What’s stopping you from surrendering? It’s until we step up to the fear – nose to nose, eye to eye and speak your decision out loud – that’s when change will come.

I’m not sitting here waiting for my cancer to be cured. See, cancer WAS the cure.

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Read more about Jenny’s journey on her blog HERE.

By Jenny Miller

My name is Jenny and I am the Director of Administration for WHOLE Women Ministries. I’m 34 and I live in Maryland. I’ve been married to my husband for 13 wonderful years and have 3 amazing children who are 10, 6, and 18 months. I enjoy playing piano, reading, having conversations with my friends, and playing bingo on Saturday nights. Having breast cancer wasn’t in my plans, but God must have a greater one for me. Read more about my journey at


  1. WOW! Jenny, I have been praying for you and your battle with cancer since Crystal told me of your dx back in the spring. I have lost a sister to this disease and have had a few scares of my own. I relate to the medical, physical and emotional aspects of what cancer does to a person and their family.

    What I relate to more is the struggle with sexual addiction and overcoming the lies about ourselves. This last “scare” was pretty intense and put a lot of things in perspective for me. It really made me ask God to change me. Change my heart. Change how I see those around me and show me opportunities to love others and love them well.

    Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging me to keep asking God to help me change my heart…when i grow up i want to have a heart like yours.


  2. Thank you crystal and jenny for taking time to update us. You have been on my prayer list from the first day crystal shared your story. I am so blessed to hear you are growing and am headed for my Bible to PS. 91


  3. I have been praying for you since I first heard and I read your blogs and I have to say I have stopped the poor me’s and being selfish and high expectations and now live everyday to the fullest. We don’t know God’s plan for us your right this is a very tough road to go down and the strength and what God is doing in your life is amazing/. I pray for your mom as well I love your attitude your not waiting for a cure, cancer was your cure. I so hate cancer now more then ever that is why life is so precious life is so worth living, my father in law is dying of lung cancer and brain tumor. He has about 3 weeks or so left to live. Your story is so inspiring and I loved your story about the women you brought breakfast for what a testimony you are to others. I’m praying every step of your journey for you. You are such an inspiring women. Love you <3


  4. I am praying for you. God has great plans for you and I can’t wait to see how he uses you during this time. I too was diagnosed with breast cancer when I turned 40. It was picked up on a routine mammogram. I also was getting ready to begin my counseling degree. I also was fortunate enough to have a doctor tell me the hard truth and then prayed immediately with me. I have been cancer free for 13 years now. I have now finished my counseling degree and I specialize with sexual addiction and reconciling marriages. My cancer was the wake up call to begin living life in the fullest and desiring to truly understand my identity in Christ. I’m praying your journey will be as rewarding as mine has been.


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