My Response to the Naysayers
In mid-2010, I agreed to be interviewed for a secular women’s magazine. The reporter presented the article to me in such a way that they were really interested in female pornography addiction and wanted to feature it.
So initially it seemed like a good idea. Chalk it up to the inexperience and gullibility of a newbie.
She was friendly. She asked the right kind of questions. She even commended our work. But then the article was released—and I was immediately filled with regret.
Instead of writing an article about the issue of female porn addiction, the reporter’s agenda was to write a piece that pegged me as a woman on a crusade against masturbation—who was only parading around as a ministry about porn.
At the time of its release not much exposure came from it. So I was hoping it was dead and buried and I could take it all as a lesson learned. But what’s unfortunate about the press—is that nothing is ever as dead and buried as you might think.
Things like this like to come back to life.
A little over a year later, the article resurfaced when another popular website picked it up. It’s resulted in numerous other posts and discussion forums have lit up like wild fire. All attacking me and attacking DGM in slanderous ways because “we’re on a crusade against female masturbation,” which of course is so completely false.
DGM’s stance is simply this: We speak out against any sexual behavior that has become unmanageable. That’s it.
So why am I bringing this up now?
Well, our online community was hacked by a few of these naysayers and many inappropriate comments were posted for our members to see. Thankfully, our team is quick and was able to delete these comments and ban those users.
I want to first apologize to the members of our online community. It’s my bad that this whole thing started. If I had done a better job of researching this publication, this situation could probably have been avoided.
But I also want to thank the naysayers—not just those who invaded our community, but those who are posting blogs and in discussion forums. And even the reporter who created this story.
“ … Count yourselves blessed every time people put you down or throw you out or speak lies about you to discredit Me. What it means is that the truth is too close for comfort and they are uncomfortable. You can be glad when that happens—give a cheer, even!—for though they don’t like it, I do! And all heaven applauds. And know that you are in good company. My prophets and witnesses have always gotten into this kind of trouble.” Matthew 5:11 MSG
There are days when it takes every bit of resolve I have not to publicly defend DGM and myself against the nonsense I read online. Yesterday was one of those days. But the reality is… if I did that every time something negative was posted about myself or DGM, I would do nothing else with my time.
And this will be only time I post about such things on this blog.
I have worked in ministry (in some capacity) for over 10 years and have seen & experienced a lot of stuff. But I was never attacked personally until now. Until this season and this kind of ministry. It seems that no one creates discussion forums or blogs to bash someone for being a graphic designer.
But they are created all the time to bash DGM and the work we do. It causes me a completely different kind of pain… heartache. And while there’s so much good happening in this ministry and God has used my story in ways I could never have imagined … I do get battle weary.
And yet I am happy to get “into this kind of trouble” as the scripture said—because it means there’s something worth fighting for going on.
And we will keep fighting this fight because the last word spoken will not be that of a lie. It will be the truth we stand on: that our fight is not against flesh and blood; not against the porn industry; not against those who view porn and claim to like it.
Our fight is against the powers of this dark world.
So we don’t expect to change the minds of the naysayers. That’s not our agenda. We just want to help women.
And we consider the persecution we receive in the process as a badge of honor.
“The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you. Do you remember what I told you? ‘A slave is not greater than the master.’ Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you. And if they had listened to me, they would listen to you. They will do all this to you because of me, for they have rejected the One who sent me.” John 15:19-21 NLT
Founder & Executive Director
Dirty Girls Ministries